We're taught that in life, we should try to look on th bright side, to be optimistic. Not in this case. In this case, look on th dark side. Assume rejection first. Assume youre th rule, not th exception.

If th guy youre dating doesnt seem to be completely into you, or you feel th need to start 'figuring him out', please consider th glorious thought that he might just not be into you. And then free yourself to go find the one that is. Move on, sister! Cut your losses and dont waste time. Why stay in some weird dating limbo when you can move on to what will surely be better territory?

A man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than to tell you that hes just not that into you. If a guy is into you, he will call you.

Here's th truth: Guys dont mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a 'fuck buddy' situation of a meaningful romance. If you hear him say "I dont want to ruin our friendship." Give him a tight slap. I hate to tell you but that whole 'I dont want to ruin the friendship' excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. The "Maybe he wants to take it slow" excuse. If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He wont keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you dont get frustrated & go away.

An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of 'ruining the friendship'. Hes just not that into you if hes not calling you. Men know how to use the phone. The 'But hes got a lot on his mind" excuse. When you like someone, they dont just slip your mind.

It seems like a good excuse, but in fact, in every silo you uncover, all youre going to find is a man who didnt care enough to call. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want. If he's not calling you, its because you're not on his mind. 'Busy' is another word for 'asshole'. 'Asshole' is another word for the guy youre dating.

Guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen of believe them. 'I don't want to be in a serious relationship' truly means 'I don't want to be in a serious relationship with you'. Sorry. The 'He's afraid to get hurt again' excuse. If he were in love with you, he wouldn't be able to help himself from getting involved in a romantic relationship regardless of his fear or past experience. If something is wrong in a relationship, there's a bright, mature idea: Talk about it. Don't let any man blame you for his infidelity. Ever.

Lets call cheating what it is: a complete betrayal of trust. There is no excuse for cheating. Let me say it again. There is no excuse for cheating. Now you say it. There is no excuse for cheating. Cheating is cheating. It doesnt matter whom it was with or how many times it happened. Know you deserve not just an affectionate, attention boyfriend, but you deserve an affectionate, attentive, sober one. Bad boys are actually bad. If he only wants to see you, talk to you, have sex with you, etc., when hes inebriated, it ain't love -its sport. Don't spend your time and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. He's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you. 'I don't want to go out with you' means just that. Build a bridge, and get over it.

Everyone wants to be loved and needed particularly by the person who just broke up with us. The 'But he misses me' excuse. Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply miserable. However, hes still the same person who just broke up with you and tore your heart apart. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because hes choosing, every day, not to be with you.

The "But then he wants to get back together' excuse. This is what that guy is doing during your relationship recess: Hes sniffing around for something better, and when he doesn't find it, he gets lonely and comes "home". Its not that hes so into you. Its that hes so not into being alone.

Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same fool who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company.

Don't confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal. One simple rule, ladies: Always be classy. Never be crazy.You cant talk your way out of a breakup. It is not up for discussion. A breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one. There's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

He's just not that into you if he's disappeared on you. Sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself. He's gone. Poof! Vanished into thin air. Well, there's no mixed message here. He's made it clear that he's so not into you that he couldn't even bother to leave you a Post-it.The 'But can't I at least yell at him?" excuse. In a short term it might feel good to call someone and yell at him. But in the long run, you will wished that you had not given him much credit for ruining your life. The 'But I just want an answer' excuse. Do you deserve to know what went wrong or what happened? Yes. But fortunately for you, I can tell you what happened. You were dating a jerk.

Sometimes a person's behavior is so abhorrent that it leaves little doubt as to what to do. The big mistake you made was choosing that person to begin with. The quickest way to rectify that mistake is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future. And quick, before any more of your precious time is wasted.

The reason its so painful when someone disappears, is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. Don't ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don't waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all the things he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie. The only thing you need to know is that its really good news: He's gone. Hallelujah. And, no matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.

Regardless of how much his relationship sucks or how awful his girlfriend is to him, it obviously isn't that bad or he would get out of it. A good relationship should not be lived in secrecy. Go find yourself one that worth living out loud.

I know things seem a lot easier when your affair is with a guy whose girlfriend is an evil, shrieking, insulting hag. No matter what their relationship or circumstances are, you are still helping a guy cheat on his girlfriend. Let's agree you're better than that. Unless he's all yours, he's still hers. Dont be that girl. And that girl is what Id like to call a home wrecker. A home wrecker is nothing else but a bitch. If you don't want it to happen to you, don't do it to others. SIMPLE as that. Forget about him and his good qualities. Even forget about his bad ones. Forget about all his excuses and what he promises. Ask yourself one question only: Is he making you happy?

The 'He's really trying to be better' excuse. Try not to be four years into a relationship when it suddenly dawns of you that the guy you're with is a big, selfish jerk. Chances are, 'Jerk Boy' has been trying to show you who he is since day one. You already have one asshole. You don't need another. You are exceptional, but not the exception! Please remember that.

- Hes Just Not That Into You